Seating / Table Arrangement for your wedding

The seating / table arrangement at a wedding should be well thought out and is certainly one of the most strenuous preparations.

Seating Plan

The following factors must be taken into account when arranging the table:

– possibilities that the room has to offer
– places for buffet, musicians etc.
– type of tables that are available
– What shape should the seating arrangement have?


Nowadays, the seating arrangement at the wedding can be designed according to the wishes of the newlyweds. There used to be rules. If you want, you can follow these basic rules:

– As the focal point of the wedding party, the bride and groom sit on the honor table
– The bride’s parents sit next to the groom, and the groom’s parents sit next to the bride
– If possible, the grandparents and brothers and sisters of the newlyweds should also sit at the bridal table
– The groomsmen should also sit near the newlyweds

When placing guests, be careful not to place older guests too close to passageways or the music, if possible.

It is recommended for older children to make an extra table on which there are toys, handicrafts and painting things, small children should sit with their parents.

It is advisable to place the names on the place cards so that the guest on the other side of the table can also read who they are dealing with and address the person by name. For a big party, a seating plan should be hung next to the entrance. This saves the guests from having to search.

U-shaped Seating Arrangement

The U shape is preferred for smaller wedding parties and takes up a lot of space.

Seating Arrangement E-shape

Here the bride and groom have eye contact with almost all guests and can therefore actively participate in the action at the tables. With these seating arrangements, it is often perceived as disturbing that the guests sit back to back. Since the guests here often interfere with each other when getting up, there is often unrest. The E-shape is mostly chosen for smaller wedding parties.

Seating Chart Blackboard with tables

The bride and groom occupy a central place of honor on the table, with the bride always sitting to the right of the groom. The bride’s mother sits to the left of the groom and the groom’s father sits to the right of the bride, followed by the grandparents or groomsmen.

Seating and table arrangement – who sits where?

The wedding invitations have already been brought to the post office and most of the guests have also accepted. With this, the wedding preparations are already well advanced and now you can take a deep breath! Which you should definitely do, because now a gigantic puzzle is approaching you.

The seating arrangement – the “wedding puzzle”

Do you like to puzzle? Fine – then you have already trained for the most complicated puzzle of your life and are therefore ready for the seating arrangement on your wedding table. Do you know what the wedding table will look like that will seat all of society and do you have a full list of expected wedding guests? Then take a look at the seating arrangement! Index cards, each with the name of a guest, are flexible helpers. Now you only need a large sketch of the wedding table and then you can start. In the meantime, there are already several programs that are of great help in creating the seating arrangement for those who prefer digital.

A small seating order etiquette: the honor table

It goes without saying that the bride and groom are given honorary places. According to German custom, the groom sits to the left of the bride, but in America it is exactly the opposite. To the right of the bride is the groom’s father and next to him the bride’s mother. On the left side of the groom is placed his mother, next to whom the bride’s father takes a seat.

If the pastor is a guest at the wedding party, he takes a seat opposite the newlyweds. Men and women always alternate on the sides. The groomsmen, of course, sit as close as possible to the bride and groom, because they are guests of honor and therefore have priority over high-ranking people and close relatives.

If instead of a large table there are several small tables, which means that the honor table is not long enough, there is the following solution: The bride and groom, the mother and father of the groom sit exactly as in the middle-class seating arrangement. The bride’s father sits down opposite the bride and the groom’s mother sits opposite her son. The pastor is now sitting on the left side of the bride’s mother and then her table owner on her right – if possible, all women should have a table owner on their right.

Important for you: have everything in view

Some traditions naturally have very practical backgrounds: the bride and groom should always have the entire room and the entrance door in view so that they can greet the arriving guests at any time. They also see if anyone is missing a conversation partner and so they can provide entertainment after the banquet. You can do a lot with the little things for the well-being of the guests and if they feel they are in good hands, they like to remember the party as much as the bridal couple.

No Gos!

One should think about the preferences of the wedding guests and their special needs, because if Anna and Sarah don’t like each other, there is no point in putting them side by side. Sally and Martin are also unlikely to bond their relationship at a wedding party. You should leave a little space between people who have nothing to say, because if you really want to, you will always have the opportunity to talk. However, it is often rather inconvenient to put two guests together who get on particularly well, as this easily creates mini-groups that could then damage the good mood.

The seating plan as a helper

If all wedding guests flock to the ballroom and look for their respective places, a wild mess can arise and to prevent this, it is very advisable to draw up a large plan in front of the entrance of the hall. The table arrangement should of course be the same as the arrangement in the hall and the names of the wedding guests should be noted on each table. Table numbers or table names make it easier to find the right table. For the table names, for example, city or country names are available, or flower names or terms that are important for the relationship of the newlyweds. These names or numbers are then noted on the seating plan and clearly visible cards are placed on each table.

Place cards and other ideas for guest names

So that all guests find their place, of course, table cards should not be missing on every seat. These can also be combined with the menu card. This is also a nice souvenir of the wedding party. If you are celebrating in a restaurant, it should be agreed when you can distribute the table cards. When the banquet is over, the seating arrangement is actually superfluous.